How to summarize concisely and usefully

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In the ICF core competency 6 under “Active Listening”, we read: “Reflects or summarizes what the client communicated to ensure clarity and understanding” and the PCC markers elaborate: “Coach succinctly reflects or summarizes what the client communicated to ensure the client’s clarity and understanding.” What I love about the elaboration in the PCC markers is […]

How to make “standard” coaching questions “dance in the moment”


Most coaching approaches know “scaling questions” in different variations. Solution Focused Coaching uses them in order to help the client describe small differences on their way to their preferred future. These can be about signs of the preferred future already happening in the past or about signs of the preferred future that would tell the […]

The most important skill today is…

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“Tolerance of ambiguity” – wonderful word, isn’t it? In German it is even better (‘cause we can stick all components together 😊) “Ambiguitätstoleranz”. What? Come again? Actually, I am serious. Most human beings like clarity, predictability and safety. It makes sense – we probably are all descendants of people who were able to survive hard […]

Should a coach take notes?

Note taking

Ah, yes, here we are again quoting the golden rule of coaching: “It all depends”. So I am sorry if you came here for a yes / no answer to the closed question above, you will be disappointed. But you still might learn from the considerations below. Note taking “pros”: Note taking helps some coaches […]

Coaching Loss and Grief


Sometimes clients come to our sessions with heavy hearts: they have just lost something or someone important to them: a job, a client or even an important person in their life. Maybe they did not lose something but a hope was disappointed: they did not get the promotion, the university they wanted to attend did […]