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February 20, 2025

Love it, change it or leave it

The "Love it, change it, or leave it" principle presents three options: acceptance, change, or leaving. A structured coaching approach can explore these options, starting with attempts to change the situation (Plan A), then acceptance (Plan B), and finally, preparing to leave the situation (Plan C) if necessary. This approach can create hope and confidence.

February 14, 2025

Self-help from hell

Self-help can offer valuable insights, but not all advice is beneficial. Beware of toxic positivity, individualistic blame, unrealistic promises, one-size-fits-all solutions, and endless upsells. Real growth is personal, messy, and social.

February 7, 2025

Hope and courage in coaching

Episcopal Bishop Mariann Budde’s How We Learn to Be Brave explores hope and courage—key for coaches. Facing clients' realities with honesty and inviting them to seek possible good fosters meaningful progress.

January 31, 2025

Be human, first

Coaching is deeply human—AI can ask good questions, but true understanding comes from shared experience. Sometimes, sharing a small personal moment normalizes and strengthens. Let’s embrace our humanity in coaching!

January 24, 2025

What experienced coaches would have told their younger selves

What wisdom can be gained from experienced coaches? Remind yourself that you are good enough, step out of problem-solving mode, embrace the unknown? Which advice would you give?

January 17, 2024

Confidentiality in internal coaching

Many organizations benefit from internal coaching pools for cost efficiency, context familiarity, and cultural enhancement. However, confidentiality poses challenges. Key strategies include defining boundaries, handling sensitive matters transparently, seeking supervision, and self-awareness.

January 10, 2025

When clients want to know “why”

Humans are meaning-makers, often needing coherent stories to understand experiences. Coaching can shift focus from "why" to growth, self-compassion, and actionable goals, fostering resilience and forward movement.

January 2, 2025

"If" or "When" - Using presuppositional language in coaching

Presuppositional language in Solution Focused coaching assumes positive change is possible, empowering clients to explore solutions. Using “when” fosters hope and action, while ethical care ensures assumptions align with client perspectives

December 27, 2024

Cha...cha... cha... changes...

Start fresh with hope and purpose. Reflect on the past, set values-driven goals, and envision your ideal future. Coaching principles transform vague resolutions into meaningful, actionable steps for lasting growth.

December 20, 2024

Who is responsible: the team or the team coach?

In team coaching, the team coach facilitates productive discussions and process design, but responsibility for outcomes lies with the team and leader. Effective partnership and clear role boundaries are key.

December 13, 2024

Just not feeling it - coaching "cognitive" clients

Coaching often contrasts “cognitive” and “emotional” conversations, but these elements coexist naturally. This blog explores strategies for enriching “cognitive” sessions without forcing emotional discussions, fostering deeper client engagement and transformation.

December 6, 2024

Solution Focused and Narrative Coaching Ethics

Solution Focused and Narrative Coaching Ethics prioritize participatory curiosity, valuing co-constructed relationships over neutral observation. Emphasizing equal client-coach perspectives, they reject privilege, objectification, and diagnostic categorization, fostering meaningful, generative conversations rooted in mutual respect.

November 29, 2024

Coaching Perfectionism: Honoring Strengths While Expanding Possibilities

Perfectionism. The word often conjures up mixed feelings. For many, it represents dedication, meticulousness, and a drive to excel. For others, it can evoke images of burnout, stress, and the never-ending feeling of “not enough.” For coaches, working with perfectionist clients presents a unique opportunity to walk a delicate balance: honoring their strengths while helping them expand their capacity to embrace imperfection.

November 22, 2024

Matching the “energy” of the client: a crucial consideration for coaches

Coaching "energy" reflects speed, tone, and gestures. Matching low "energy" risks "problem talk," while high "energy" may overwhelm. Balancing "energy" fosters reflection and connection. Reflect on "energy" to enhance sessions.

November 15, 2024

How to prepare for a coaching session: a reflective approach

Prepare for impactful coaching sessions with this 5-step approach: center yourself, recall the client’s journey, set your intention, listen deeply, and embrace flexibility. Enhance each session with presence and purpose.